Gabor Mate: The Childhood Lie That’s Ruining All Of Our Lives. | E193 - Video

Gabor Mate: The Childhood Lie That’s Ruining All Of Our Lives. | E193

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Gabor Mate is a multi-bestselling author and a world leading expert on trauma and how it effects us throughout our whole lives. A holocaust survivor and a first generation immigrant, Gabor’s knowledge and wisdom on the scars trauma leaves behind is deep and drawn from personal experience. Topics: 0:00 Intro 02:04 Early context 08:16 How does someone correct their traumatic events? 09:33 How did your traumatic event show shape you? 14:54 What did you focus on in your career? 16:40 What did working with patients towards the end of their life teach you? 20:34 The importance of following our passion 27:13 The Myth Of Normal 30:57 How would our approaches change if we took away the concept of normal? 41:06 How parents behaviour can impact a child 44:27 How do you define trauma? 46:57 Does everyone have trauma? 50:51 Why can two people with the same trauma turn out differently? 01:01:44 Being controlled by our trauma 01:04:20 Do we ever cut the putter master strings? 01:05:56 How does someone become more aware? 01:09:18 Additions and how we develop them 01:13:28 How do we find our sense of worth? 01:14:05 Why is authenticity so important 01:18:51 Taking personal responsibility 01:20:09 The 5 Rs to take control of your life 01:26:36 ADHD 01:40:40 Do you think society is getting more toxic? 01:50:27 What are you still struggling with? 01:54:25 The last guest’s question Gabor: Instagram - https://bit.ly/3zLZvRK Twitter - https://bit.ly/3E7nca4 Gabor's book, The Myth Of Normal: https://amzn.to/3tlR7VP The Dairy sign up link: https://bit.ly/3fUcF8q Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGq-... Listen on: Apple podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast... Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/7iQXmUT... Follow: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/steven/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SteveBartlettSC Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steven-ba... Telegram: https://g2ul0.app.link/SBExclusiveCom... Sponsors: Amex - https://bit.ly/3TATNKc Huel - https://g2ul0.app.link/G4RjcdKNKsb


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Intro

0:00

Early context

2:04

How does someone correct their traumatic events?

8:16

How did your traumatic event show shape you?

9:33
What did you focus on in your career?

14:54
What did working with patients towards the end of their life teach you?

16:40
The importance of following our passion

20:34
The Myth Of Normal

27:13

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The Diary Of A CEO
2 months ago (edited)
This is one of my top 3 favourite episodes of all time. Genuinely changed me. Please hit the like button on the video if you like this guest



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mike sheridan

1 month ago
My father was prone to rage. Mum would often say we'd walk on eggshells around him. His anger could well up at any time and especially around practical things like mowing the lawn, packing the car or on the rare occasion when we went on holiday. He was a workaholic and moved us constantly for his "career". By the age of 15 we have moved 9 times and I went to seven different schools from the north of Scotland to the S East of England. To this day he sees it as our failing that my brother, sister & I didn't "do well" at school. I became a workaholic myself & know I was also trying to prove my worth and I carried a lot of learnt behaviors. I felt strongly that unless I carried a "big job title", made money, drove a big car and lived in a "good area" etc. I would never gain his respect or feel worthy. Bonkers I know! Thankfully I was able to stop, getting off the hampster wheel aged 57 when the doctor told me I was carrying critical hypertension. I've move to N Devon to be by the sea, work part time and mostly ride my bicycle. I'm walking the SW coast path at weekends. I'm also trying to rediscovery my sense of self and what an authentic life looks like now. Good luck everyone.