Mikael Howerton ~ I Tell You, You Are Not Alone !!!

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Beloveds, that which separates us are thoughts.

You become the thoughts you entertain and embrace.

There are two forms of thoughts and you are not the creator of either.

Your power lies in your ability to decide on what thoughts you want to live through you.

Information warfare is spiritual warfare!

INFORMATION is formed by thoughts.

THE SEPARATION has begun, time to get off the fence and stand up
for the thoughts you want to see manifested in this world.

Shall it be liberty/life or slavery/death"
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To all those who are continuing to plant seeds
even when it looks like the ground won’t except it.

Keep planting!

Thank you for being patient as His-story is unfolding.

We have to bring all the tares out into the open.

Continue to manifest the fruits of the Holy Spirit.

Make sure you are embracing the thoughts and actions you want to see in others.

For you become what you think and do, not what is done to you.

Hold the line. Peacefully refuse to do what you know is wrong to do!

Remember the FATHER sees and hears everything and he will judge all
that are abomination to him.continue in prayer ❤️❤️

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And all the men and women merely players;
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts,
when you know the creator and his plans for His-story,
you know the ending.

There are two roles to be played,each shall of his own choosing, choose the roles he shall play.

The ones choosing the behaviour and character that the FATHER or CREATOR loves shall be in His-story!

Those that choose to be what that FATHER or CREATOR hates shall be in a different story♥️
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Mikael Howerton
11:11 am on 25 Oct 2021 ·

Understanding the Tares :

Do not be ignorant of Satan's psychological devices.

Know that these always seek positions of authority, they have infiltrated all high places,
their roots run deep!

They shall all be removed!

You will know my children by their fruits!

The fruits of my children are love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

Against such things there is no law! You will also know Satan's children by their fruit!

There are six things that the FATHER hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue,
and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil,
a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers Satan's children
such as malignant narcissists, psychopaths and those with antisocial traits engage in maladaptive behaviors
in relationships that ultimately exploit, demean and hurt their intimate partners, family members and friends.

They use a plethora of diversionary tactics that distort the reality of their victims and deflect responsibility.

Although those who are not narcissistic can employ these tactics as well, abusive narcissists
use these to an excessive extent in an effort to escape accountability for their actions.

Here are the diversionary tactics Satanic people use to silence and degrade you.

1. Gaslighting.
Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic that can be described in different variations of three words:
“That didn’t happen,” “You imagined it,” and “Are you crazy?” "that's just a conspiracy theory"Gaslighting
is perhaps one of the most insidious manipulative tactics out there because it works to distort and erode your sense of reality;
it eats away at your ability to trust yourself and inevitably disables you from feeling justified in calling out abuse and mistreatment.

When a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath gaslights you, you may be prone to gaslighting yourself as a way
to reconcile the cognitive dissonance that might arise.

Two conflicting beliefs battle it out: is this person right
or can I trust what I experienced?

A manipulative person will convince you that the former is an inevitable truth while the latter is a sign of dysfunction on your end.

In order to resist gaslighting, it’s important to ground yourself in your own reality
– sometimes writing things down as they happened, telling a friend or reiterating your experience
to a support network can help to counteract the gaslighting effect.

The power of having a validating community is that it can redirect you from the distorted reality
of a malignant person and back to your own inner guidance.

2. Projection.
One sure sign of toxicity is when a person is chronically unwilling to see his or her own shortcomings
and uses everything in their power to avoid being held accountable for them.

This is known as projection.

Projection is a defense mechanism used to displace responsibility of one’s negative behavior
and traits by attributing them to someone else.

It ultimately acts as a digression that avoids ownership and accountability.

While we all engage in projection to some extent, according to Narcissistic Personality clinical expert
Dr. Martinez-Lewi, the projections of a narcissist are often psychologically abusive.

Rather than acknowledge their own flaws, imperfections and wrongdoings, malignant narcissists
and sociopaths opt to dump their own traits on their unsuspecting suspects in a way that is painful
and excessively cruel. Instead of admitting that self-improvement may be in order, they would prefer
that their victims take responsibility for their behavior and feel ashamed of themselves.

This is a way for a narcissist to project any toxic shame they have about themselves onto another.

For example, a person who engages in pathological lying may accuse their partner of fibbing;
a needy spouse may call their husband “clingy” in an attempt to depict them as the one who is dependent;
a rude employee may call their boss ineffective in an effort to escape the truth about their own productivity.

Narcissistic abusers love to play the “blameshifting game.”

Objectives of the game: they win, you lose, and you or the world at large is blamed for everything that’s wrong with them.

This way, you get to babysit their fragile ego while you’re thrust into a sea of self-doubt.

Fun, right?

Solution? Don’t “project” your own sense of compassion or empathy onto a toxic person and don’t own
any of the toxic person’s projections either. As manipulation expert and author Dr. George Simon (2010)
notes in his book In Sheep’s Clothing, projecting our own conscience and value system onto others
has the potential consequence of being met with further exploitation.

Narcissists on the extreme end of the spectrum usually have no interest in self-insight or change.

It’s important to cut ties and end interactions with toxic people as soon as possible so you can get centered
in your own reality and validate your own identity.

You don’t have to live in someone else’s cesspool of dysfunction.

3. Nonsensical conversations from hell.

If you think you’re going to have a thoughtful discussion with someone who is toxic,
be prepared for epic mindfuckery rather than conversational mindfulness.

Malignant narcissists and sociopaths use word salad, circular conversations, ad hominem arguments, projection
and gaslighting to disorient you and get you off track should you ever disagree with them or challenge them in any way.

They do this in order to discredit, confuse and frustrate you, distract you from the main problem
and make you feel guilty for being a human being with actual thoughts and feelings that might differ
from their own.

In their eyes, you are the problem if you happen to exist.

Spend even ten minutes arguing with a toxic narcissist and you’ll find yourself wondering how the argument even began at all.

You simply disagreed with them about their absurd claim that the sky is red and now your entire childhood, family, friends,
career and lifestyle choices have come under attack.

That is because your disagreement picked at their false belief that they are omnipotent and omniscient,
resulting in a narcissistic injury.

Remember: toxic people don’t argue with you, they essentially argue with themselves
and you become privy to their long, draining monologues.

They thrive off the drama and they live for it.

Each and every time you attempt to provide a point that counters their ridiculous assertions,
you feed them supply. Don’t feed the narcissists supply

– rather, supply yourself with the confirmation that their abusive behavior is the problem, not you.

Cut the interaction short as soon as you anticipate it escalating and use your energy on some decadent self-care instead.

4. Blanket statements and generalizations.
Malignant narcissists aren’t always intellectual masterminds – many of them are intellectually lazy.

Rather than taking the time to carefully consider a different perspective, they generalize anything and everything you say,
making blanket statements that don’t acknowledge the nuances in your argument or take into account the multiple perspectives
you’ve paid homage to. Better yet, why not put a label on you that dismisses your perspective altogether?

On a larger scale, generalizations and blanket statements invalidate experiences that don’t fit in the unsupported assumptions,
schemas and stereotypes of society; they are also used to maintain the status quo.

This form of digression exaggerates one perspective to the point where a social justice issue can become completely obscured.

For example, rape accusations against well-liked figures are often met with the reminder that there are false reports of rape that occur.

While those do occur, they are rare, and in this case, the actions of one become labeled the behavior of the majority
while the specific report itself remains unaddressed.

These everyday microaggressions also happen in toxic relationships.

If you bring up to a narcissistic abuser that their behavior is unacceptable for example, they will often make blanket generalizations
about your hypersensitivity or make a generalization such as, “You are never satisfied,” or “You’re always too sensitive”
rather than addressing the real issues at hand. It’s possible that you are oversensitive at times,
but it is also possible that the abuser is also insensitive and cruel the majority of the time.

Hold onto your truth and resist generalizing statements by realizing that they are in fact forms of black and white illogical thinking.

Toxic people wielding blanket statements do not represent the full richness of experience

– they represent the limited one of their singular experience and overinflated sense of self.

5. Deliberately misrepresenting your thoughts and feelings to the point of absurdity.

In the hands of a malignant narcissist or sociopath, your differing opinions, legitimate emotions
and lived experiences get translated into character flaws and evidence of your irrationality.

Narcissists weave tall tales to reframe what you’re actually saying as a way to make your opinions look absurd or heinous.

Let’s say you bring up the fact that you’re unhappy with the way a toxic friend is speaking to you.

In response, he or she may put words in your mouth, saying, “Oh, so now you’re perfect?”
or “So I am a bad person, huh?” when you’ve done nothing but express your feelings.

This enables them to invalidate your right to have thoughts and emotions about their inappropriate behavior
and instills in you a sense of guilt when you attempt to establish boundaries.
This is also a popular form of diversion and cognitive distortion that is known as “mind reading.”

Toxic people often presume they know what you’re thinking and feeling.

They chronically jump to conclusions based on their own triggers rather than stepping back to evaluate the situation mindfully.

They act accordingly based on their own delusions and fallacies and make no apologies for the harm they cause as a result.

Notorious for putting words in your mouth, they depict you as having an intention or outlandish viewpoint you didn’t possess.

They accuse you of thinking of them as toxic
– even before you’ve gotten the chance to call them out on their behavior
– and this also serves as a form of preemptive defense.

Simply stating, “I never said that,” and walking away should the person continue to accuse you
of doing or saying something you didn’t can help to set a firm boundary in this type of interaction.

So long as the toxic person can blameshift and digress from their own behavior, they have succeeded in convincing you
that you should be “shamed” for giving them any sort of realistic feedback.

6. Nitpicking and moving the goal posts.
The difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism is the presence of a personal attack and impossible standards.

These so-called “critics” often don’t want to help you improve, they just want to nitpick, pull you down and scapegoat you
in any way they can.

Abusive narcissists and sociopaths employ a logical fallacy known as “moving the goalposts” in order to ensure
that they have every reason to be perpetually dissatisfied with you.

This is when, even after you’ve provided all the evidence in the world to validate your argument
or taken an action to meet their request, they set up another expectation of you or demand more proof.

Do you have a successful career?

The narcissist will then start to pick on why you aren’t a multi-millionaire yet.

Did you already fulfill their need to be excessively catered to?

Now it’s time to prove that you can also remain “independent.”

The goal posts will perpetually change and may not even be related to each other;
they don’t have any other point besides making you vie for the narcissist’s approval and validation.

By raising the expectations higher and higher each time or switching them completely, highly manipulative and toxic people
are able to instill in you a pervasive sense of unworthiness and of never feeling quite “enough.”

By pointing out one irrelevant fact or one thing you did wrong and developing a hyperfocus on it,
narcissists get to divert from your strengths and pull you into obsessing over any flaws or weaknesses instead.

They get you thinking about the next expectation of theirs you’re going to have to meet
– until eventually you’ve bent over backwards trying to fulfill their every need
– only to realize it didn’t change the horrific way they treated you.

Don’t get sucked into nitpicking and changing goal posts

– if someone chooses to rehash an irrelevant point over and over again to the point
where they aren’t acknowledging the work you’ve done to validate your point or satisfy them,
their motive isn’t to better understand.

It’s to further provoke you into feeling as if you have to constantly prove yourself.

Validate and approve of yourself.

Know that you are enough and you don’t have to be made to feel constantly deficient or unworthy in some way.

7. Changing the subject to evade accountability.

This type of tactic is what I like to call the “What about me?” syndrome.

It is a literal digression from the actual topic that works to redirect attention to a different issue altogether.

Narcissists don’t want you to be on the topic of holding them accountable for anything,
so they will reroute discussions to benefit them.

Complaining about their neglectful parenting?

They’ll point out a mistake you committed seven years ago.

This type of diversion has no limits in terms of time or subject content, and often begins with a sentence like

“What about the time when…”

On a macrolevel, these diversions work to derail discussions that challenge the status quo.

A discussion about gay rights, for example, may be derailed quickly by someone who brings in another social justice issue
just to distract people from the main argument.

As Tara Moss, author of Speaking Out: A 21st Century Handbook for Women and Girls,
notes, specificity is needed in order to resolve and address issues appropriately

– that doesn’t mean that the issues that are being brought up don’t matter,
it just means that the specific time and place may not be the best context to discuss them.

Don’t be derailed – if someone pulls a switcheroo on you, you can exercise what I call the “broken record” method
and continue stating the facts without giving in to their distractions.

Redirect their redirection by saying,

“That’s not what I am talking about. Let’s stay focused on the real issue.”

If they’re not interested, disengage and spend your energy on something more constructive

– like not having a debate with someone who has the mental age of a toddler.

8. Covert and overt threats.
Narcissistic abusers and otherwise toxic people feel very threatened when their excessive sense of entitlement,
false sense of superiority and grandiose sense of self are challenged in any way.

They are prone to making unreasonable demands on others
– while punishing you for not living up to their impossible to reach expectations.

Rather than tackle disagreements or compromises maturely, they set out to divert you from your right to have your own identity
and perspective by attempting to instill fear in you about the consequences of disagreeing or complying with their demands.

To them, any challenge results in an ultimatum and “do this or I’ll do that” becomes their daily mantra.

If someone’s reaction to you setting boundaries or having a differing opinion from your own is to threaten you into submission,
whether it’s a thinly veiled threat or an overt admission of what they plan to do, this is a red flag of someone who has a high degree
of entitlement and has no plans of compromising.

Take threats seriously and show the narcissist you mean business; document threats and report them
whenever possible and legally feasible.

9. Name-calling.
Narcissists preemptively blow anything they perceive as a threat to their superiority out of proportion.

In their world, only they can ever be right and anyone who dares to say otherwise creates a narcissistic injury
that results in narcissistic rage.

As Mark Goulston, M.D. asserts, narcissistic rage does not result from low self-esteem
but rather a high sense of entitlement and false sense of superiority.

The lowest of the low resort to narcissistic rage in the form of name-calling when they can’t think of a better way
to manipulate your opinion or micromanage your emotions.

Name-calling is a quick and easy way to put you down, degrade you and insult your intelligence,
appearance or behavior while invalidating your right to be a separate person with a right to his or her perspective.

Name-calling can also be used to criticize your beliefs, opinions and insights.

A well-researched perspective or informed opinion suddenly becomes “silly” or “idiotic” in the hands
of a malignant narcissist or sociopath who feels threatened by it and cannot make a respectful, convincing rebuttal.

Rather than target your argument, they target you as a person and seek to undermine your credibility
and intelligence in any way they possibly can. It’s important to end any interaction that consists of name-calling
and communicate that you won’t tolerate it.

Don’t internalize it: realize that they are resorting to name-calling because they are deficient in higher level methods.

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10. Destructive conditioning.

Toxic people condition you to associate your strengths, talents, and happy memories with abuse, frustration and disrespect.

They do this by sneaking in covert and overt put-downs about the qualities and traits they once idealized
as well as sabotaging your goals, ruining celebrations, vacations and holidays.

They may even isolate you from your friends and family and make you financially dependent upon them.

Like Pavlov’s dogs, you’re essentially “trained” over time to become afraid of doing the very things that once made your life fulfilling.

Narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths and otherwise toxic people do this because they wish to divert attention
back to themselves and how you’re going to please them. If there is anything outside of them that may threaten
their control over your life, they seek to destroy it.

They need to be the center of attention at all times. In the idealization phase, you were once the center of a narcissist’s world
– now the narcissist becomes the center of yours.

Narcissists are also naturally pathologically envious and don’t want anything to come in between them and their influence over you.

Your happiness represents everything they feel they cannot have in their emotionally shallow lives.

After all, if you learn that you can get validation, respect and love from other sources besides the toxic person,
what’s to keep you from leaving them?

To toxic people, a little conditioning can go a long way to keep you walking on eggshells
and falling just short of your big dreams.

11. Smear campaigns and stalking.

When toxic types can’t control the way you see yourself, they start to control how others see you;
they play the martyr while you’re labeled the toxic one.

A smear campaign is a preemptive strike to sabotage your reputation and slander your name
so that you won’t have a support network to fall back on lest you decide to detach and cut ties with this toxic person.

They may even stalk and harass you or the people you know as a way to supposedly “expose” the truth about you;
this exposure acts as a way to hide their own abusive behavior while projecting it onto you.

Some smear campaigns can even work to pit two people or two groups against each other.

A victim in an abusive relationship with a narcissist often doesn’t know what’s being said about them
during the relationship, but they eventually find out the falsehoods shortly after they’ve been discarded.

Toxic people will gossip behind your back (and in front of your face), slander you to your loved ones or their loved ones,
create stories that depict you as the aggressor while they play the victim, and claim that you engaged in the same behaviors
that they are afraid you will accuse them of engaging in.

They will also methodically, covertly and deliberately abuse you so they can use your reactions
as a way to prove that they are the so-called “victims” of your abuse.

The best way to handle a smear campaign is to stay mindful of your reactions and stick to the facts.

This is especially pertinent for high-conflict divorces with narcissists
who may use your reactions to their provocations against you.

Document any form of harassment, cyberbullying or stalking incidents
and always speak to your narcissist through a lawyer whenever possible.

You may wish to take legal action if you feel the stalking and harassment is getting out of control;
finding a lawyer who is well-versed in Narcissistic Personality Disorder is crucial if that’s the case.

Your character and integrity will speak for itself when the narcissist’s false mask begins to slip.

12. Love-bombing and devaluation.

Toxic people put you through an idealization phase until you’re sufficiently hooked
and invested in beginning a friendship
or relationship with you.

Then, they begin to devalue you while insulting the very things they admired in the first place.

Another variation of this is when a toxic individual puts you on a pedestal while aggressively devaluing
and attacking someone else who threatens their sense of superiority.

Narcissistic abusers do this all the time

– they devalue their exes to their new partners, and eventually the new partner starts to receive the same sort of mistreatment
as the narcissist’s ex-partner.

Ultimately what will happen is that you will also be on the receiving end of the same abuse.

You will one day be the ex-partner they degrade to their new source of supply.

You just don’t know it yet.

That’s why it’s important to stay mindful of the love-bombing technique whenever you witness behavior
that doesn’t align with the saccharine sweetness a narcissist subjects you to.

As life coach Wendy Powell suggests, slowing things down with people you suspect may be toxic is an important way
of combating the love-bombing technique.

Be wary of the fact that how a person treats or speaks about someone else could potentially translate
into the way they will treat you in the future.

13. Preemptive defense.

When someone stresses the fact that they are a “nice guy” or girl, that you should “trust them” right away
or emphasizes their credibility without any provocation from you whatsoever, be wary.

Toxic and abusive people overstate their ability to be kind and compassionate.

They often tell you that you should “trust” them without first building a solid foundation of trust.

They may “perform” a high level of sympathy and empathy at the beginning of your relationship to dupe you,
only to unveil their false mask later on.

When you see their false mask begins to slip periodically during the devaluation phase of the abuse cycle,
the true self is revealed to be terrifyingly cold, callous and contemptuous.

Genuinely nice people rarely have to persistently show off their positive qualities
– they exude their warmth more than they talk about it and they know that actions speak volumes more than mere words.

They know that trust and respect is a two-way street that requires reciprocity, not repetition.

To counter a preemptive defense, reevaluate why a person may be emphasizing their good qualities.

Is it because they think you don’t trust them, or because they know you shouldn’t?

Trust actions more than empty words and see how someone’s actions communicate who they are,
not who they say they are.

14. Triangulation.

Bringing in the opinion, perspective or suggested threat of another person into the dynamic of an interaction
is known as “triangulation.”

Often used to validate the toxic person’s abuse while invalidating the victim’s reactions to abuse,
triangulation can also work to manufacture love triangles that leave you feeling unhinged and insecure.

Malignant narcissists love to triangulate their significant other with strangers, co-workers, ex-partners, friends
and even family members in order to evoke jealousy and uncertainty in you.

They also use the opinions of others to validate their point of view.

This is a diversionary tactic meant to pull your attention away from their abusive behavior
and into a false image of them as a desirable, sought after person.

It also leaves you questioning yourself
– if Mary did agree with Tom, doesn’t that mean that you must be wrong?

The truth is, narcissists love to “report back” falsehoods about others say about you,
when in fact, they are the ones smearing you.

To resist triangulation tactics, realize that whoever the narcissist is triangulating
with is also being triangulated by your relationship with the narcissist as well.

Everyone is essentially being played by this one person.

Reverse “triangulate” the narcissist by gaining support from a third party
that is not under the narcissist’s influence – and also by seeking your own validation.

15. Bait and feign innocence.

Toxic individuals lure you into a false sense of security simply to have a platform to showcase their cruelty.

Baiting you into a mindless, chaotic argument can escalate into a showdown rather quickly with someone
who doesn’t know the meaning of respect.

A simple disagreement may bait you into responding politely initially,
until it becomes clear that the person has a malicious motive of tearing you down.

By “baiting” you with a seemingly innocuous comment disguised as a rational one, they can then begin to play with you.

Remember: narcissistic abusers have learned about your insecurities, the unsettling catchphrases that interrupt your confidence,
and the disturbing topics that reenact your wounds
– and they use this knowledge maliciously to provoke you.

After you’ve fallen for it, hook line and sinker, they’ll stand back and innocently ask whether you’re “okay”
and talk about how they didn’t “mean” to agitate you.

This faux innocence works to catch you off guard and make you believe that they truly didn’t intend to hurt you,
until it happens so often you can’t deny the reality of their malice any longer.

It helps to realize when you’re being baited so you can avoid engaging altogether.

Provocative statements, name-calling, hurtful accusations or unsupported generalizations, for example,
are common baiting tactics.

Your gut instinct can also tell you when you’re being baited
– if you feel “off” about a certain comment and continue to feel this way even after it has been expanded on,
that’s a sign you may need to take some space to reevaluate the situation before choosing to respond.

16. Boundary testing and hoovering.

Narcissists, sociopaths and otherwise toxic people continually try and test your boundaries to see which ones they can trespass.

The more violations they’re able to commit without consequences, the more they’ll push the envelope.

That’s why survivors of emotional as well as physical abuse often experience even more severe incidents
of abuse each and every time they go back to their abusers.

Abusers tend to “hoover” their victims back in with sweet promises, fake remorse and empty words of how they are going to change,
only to abuse their victims even more horrifically. In the abuser’s sick mind, this boundary testing serves as a punishment
for standing up to the abuse and also for being going back to it.

When narcissists try to press the emotional reset button, reinforce your boundaries even more strongly
rather than backtracking on them.

Remember – highly manipulative people don’t respond to empathy or compassion.

They respond to consequences.


17. Aggressive jabs disguised as jokes.

Covert narcissists enjoy making malicious remarks at your expense.

These are usually dressed up as “just jokes” so that they can get away with saying appalling things while still maintaining an innocent,
cool demeanor. Yet any time you are outraged at an insensitive, harsh remark, you are accused of having no sense of humor.

This is a tactic frequently used in verbal abuse.

The contemptuous smirk and sadistic gleam in their eyes gives it away, however
– like a predator that plays with its food, a toxic person gains pleasure from hurting you and being able to get away with it.

After all, it’s just a joke, right? Wrong. It’s a way to gaslight you into thinking their abuse is a joke
– a way to divert from their cruelty and onto your perceived sensitivity.

It is important that when this happens, you stand up for yourself and make it clear that you won’t tolerate this type of behavior.

Calling out manipulative people on their covert put-downs may result in further gaslighting from the abuser
but maintain your stance that their behavior is not okay and end the interaction immediately if you have to.

18. Condescending sarcasm and patronizing tone.

Belittling and degrading a person is a toxic person’s forte and their tone of voice is only one tool in their toolbox.

Sarcasm can be a fun mode of communication when both parties are engaged,
but narcissists use it chronically as a way to manipulate you and degrade you.

If you in any way react to it, you must be “too sensitive.”

Forget that the toxic person constantly has temper tantrums every time their big bad ego is faced with realistic feedback
– the victim is the hypersensitive one, apparently.

So long as you’re treated like a child and constantly challenged for expressing yourself,
you’ll start to develop a sense of hypervigilance about voicing your thoughts and opinions without reprimand.

This self-censorship enables the abuser to put in less work in silencing you, because you begin to silence yourself.

Whenever you are met with a condescending demeanor or tone, call it out firmly and assertively.

You don’t deserve to be spoken down to like a child
– nor should you ever silence yourself to meet the expectation of someone else’s superiority complex.

19. Shaming.

“You should be ashamed of yourself” is a favorite saying of toxic people.

Though it can be used by someone who is non-toxic, in the realm of the narcissist or sociopath, shaming is an effective method
that targets any behavior or belief that might challenge a toxic person’s power.

It can also be used to destroy and whittle away at a victim’s self-esteem:
if a victim dares to be proud of something, shaming the victim for that specific trait, quality
or accomplishment can serve to diminish their sense of self and stifle any pride they may have.

Malignant narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths enjoy using your own wounds against you
– so they will even shame you about any abuse or injustice you’ve suffered in your lifetime as a way to retraumatize you.

Were you a childhood abuse survivor?

A malignant narcissist or sociopath will claim that you must’ve done something to deserve it,
or brag about their own happy childhood as a way to make you feel deficient and unworthy.

What better way to injure you, after all, than to pick at the original wound?

As surgeons of madness, they seek to exacerbate wounds, not help heal them.

If you suspect you’re dealing with a toxic person, avoid revealing any of your vulnerabilities or past traumas.

Until they’ve proven their character to you, there is no point disclosing information that could be potentially used against you.

20. Control.

Most importantly, toxic abusers love to maintain control in whatever way they can.

They isolate you, maintain control over your finances and social networks, and micromanage
every facet of your life.

Yet the most powerful mechanism they have for control is toying with your emotions.
That’s why abusive narcissists and sociopaths manufacture situations of conflict out of thin air
to keep you feeling off center and off balanced.

That’s why they chronically engage in disagreements about irrelevant things and rage over perceived slights.

That’s why they emotionally withdraw, only to re-idealize you once they start to lose control.

That’s why they vacillate between their false self and their true self, so you never get a sense of psychological safety
or certainty about who your partner truly is.

The more power they have over your emotions, the less likely you’ll trust your own reality and the truth
about the abuse you’re enduring.

Knowing the manipulative tactics and how they work to erode your sense of self can arm you with the knowledge
of what you’re facing and at the very least, develop a plan to regain control over your own life and away from toxic people.

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Mikael Howerton says:

• • "Is it not written he who endures to the end will be saved.
    
    This cannot be taken to mean that our salvation is somehow dependent on our personal ability to remain saved.
    
    Rather, it is a promise of perseverance.
    
    Those who have the grace to endure to the end are the ones who are genuinely saved by grace.
    
    The various trials Yahshua mentions will reveal our true colors.
    
    “Most will grow cold” and fall away from thoughts of integrity of Christ like character
    showing that they are professors only and not truly born again (Matthew 24:12).
    
    But those who endure and stand firm in the faith, despite incitements to do otherwise,
    are showing that they are genuine children of God...
    “who by God’s power are being guarded through faith for a salvation ready to be revealed in the last time”
    
    ~ Mikael Howerton
    
    
    • 
      Sandra Bowen Glovich says:
      l wish it would happen soon.
      
      Susan Lynne Schwenger says:
      it is like you are writing the lost books of Mikael back to planet Earth

 

Mikael Howerton
11:11 on 25 oct 2021 ·

You are learning.
How many coincidences before it becomes Impossible?
What are Assets?
Why is this relevant?
Why Did we have to take back what is OURS?
Think Trip_Code
Space?
Loop?
11:11?
Is there space?
Where did space come from?
Do we exist outside space or inside space?
The choice to know will be yours?
Does Space exist?
E= inner space/outer space or M2
Space=Time
Time=Light
Who wins in the End?
Remember that
Who were you told to
Follow in darkness?
It had to be this way
We made it this way
Be [p]repared
Ope[r]ations Underway
Operators [a]ctive
Find the ke[y]stone
Again.
Why is this relevant?
NOTHING is a coincidence
Future Proves Past
<Looking><Glass>
What your about to learn
Will Shock You
It is time to take back our Country & Make
America Great Again
We are not doing this for US
But for You
Have Faith
Attacks Will Only Intensify
Panic
Harvest Season
Time to End This
Movie Once & For All
My Fellow Anons:
The Storm is Upon Us:
Iron Eagle
The Great Awakening
Wizards & Warlocks
Alice & Wonderland
Snow White
Godfather lll
White Rabbit
We’re Not Done
We Never Left Either
Saving The Best For Last




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Mikael Howerton
30 Oct 2021

It’s time

Patriots and Frog Family

Ok. Do me a favor.

Grab pencil and paper!

Ok ok do it on your phone/computer/ipad!

What is really most important to you?

Make a list.

Once list is done….prioritize them.

Ok.

Now write down your feelings for the mission we are on.

You may have several and even some that are conflicting.

Next list all the most important points of why you joined this mission
and why you still believe in it.

Now look at your answers and think about how far you have come
since you first started on this journey.

How different do you see life now?

You have been down more rabbit holes than most people.

Most of you have lost friends and family.

Your life has changed in many ways since you started this journey.

Your mind is clearer.

Initially You were probably oblivious to what was actually happening to our missing children.

Did you ever think before you started this mission just who was responsible for these atrocities?

Were you aware of all the lies we were fed?

Do you see the reason why Q was formed.

Have you accepted the fact yet that Q is God?

Have you begun to understand the reason the plan has to be played out in the fashion it has been played out?

Do you see why Donald J Trump was chosen to lead?

Do you know what part the Kennedys play in it?

Have you acknowledged who the enemy truly is?

Can you honestly look at religion…any religion the same way?

Do you wonder “why me?”

Do you wonder why I am asking so many questions?

That is easy.

I am cursed with an insatiable curiosity.

But no.

I truly have a reason for asking you these questions.

We are coming to the end (finally) of this portion of our mission and some of my absolutely magnificent frogs
still don’t get why they were chosen for this mission.

You were chosen by God for one of two reasons.

I mentioned it before.

God only gives the hardest battles to his strongest soldiers and/or
God doesn’t give the hardest battles to his toughest soldiers
but creates the toughest soldiers through life’s hardest battles.

Either way, we have become God’s toughest soldiers.

Look at how much you have grown!!!

Look at how much stronger you have become?

Look at the fact that you have no fear reaching out internationally and uniting!!!

Look at how YOU have as digital warriors helped to educate others which in turn played a huge part
in helping the White Hats and President Trump and Kennedy Brothers defeat the evil.

So much will be explained when we get to finally see the movie.

But what does NOT need to be explained any further is that YOU are the future!

YOU are God’s Chosen!!! YOU are all heroes!!!!

Don’t try to debate me on that because those are all proven facts and truth!!!

So, no more comments to me that you feel unworthy.

Every single one of you picked up the digital sword and went into battle.

Every single one of you did what was asked of you.

You may see your part as minuscule but it was far from that.

You accomplished something so huge.

You stood up and said ENOUGH! You could have stayed a sheep but instead became the leaders that you needed to be.

You became the enemies worst nightmare. So please please please don’t tell me that you didn’t do much.

Look!!! You helped to unite the world.

Every time you chat with other frogs….every time you accept friendships…
every time you help others tighten their grip on holding the line
you have strengthened our army of frogs and strengthened our mission.

Yes, my very loving frogs!!!

This win was accomplished with and because of your help.

So understand just how important of a role you have played in helping the White Hats eliminate THE EVIL!!!

Without each and every one of you, it would never have been known.

The evildoers would continue to enslave us all.

You unmasked them and their deeds. So understand once and for all just how important you are in this mission.

The enemy never saw us coming.

We are the chosen warriors.

God chose each and every one of you because He needed the best of the best.

So no more downplaying your roles to yourself. You are all quite amazing!

You accomplished the tasks giving to you.

You were the secret Trump card that President Trump and the White Hats counted on.

Ok now go enjoy your weekend knowing you did and are doing a great job!

Where we go one we go all!

That is not just our motto..that is how we choose to live now.

We ARE Flynn’s F.R.O.G.s and fully reliant on God.

Just please understand how much this frog loves every one of you for all you have done.

You helped to save the children.

You helped to save the world.

Be a little more patient and you will see the total reveal so get your popcorn ready.

God bless you all!
Mar 10/30/21.
(Wow a “7” day. 1+3+2+1 = 7. I’m a 7 so it is my sign).

Written by Leslie nelson



Cheri Hill says:

• Wow! Thanks Mikael, I needed to hear this.
  I thought I've always been awake and aware, always knowing inside where my truth lies,
  but this brought a few things to a deeper understanding for me
  Susan Lynne Schwenger says:
  thank you

 

Mikael Howerton
02 nov 2021 ·

The Bible tells us to take every thought captive. (2 Corinthians 10:5)

That means that I have a chance to do something about all thoughts that are not well-pleasing to God,
before they enter my heart and become a part of me!

“As a man thinks, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7.

What we think about is crucial to who we are. Scientists don’t agree on how many thoughts we have each day,
but all agree there are thousands of them.

Who we are is shaped moment by moment by the thoughts we choose to let into our mind and heart.

But how can we control the thousands of thoughts that enter our mind each day?

What do we do with the thoughts that are not pleasing to God?

How can we, in reality, take every thought captive?

Taking every thought captive – a battle
Often, our thoughts have to be focused on the regular tasks we must accomplish that day.

However, as we go through the day, we can catch thoughts and attitudes that are contrary to God’s will
and keep them from gaining control of our mind and heart. Paul explains how this is possible:

“For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds,
casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God,
bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.’’ 2 Corinthians 10:4-5

It is written that we need to battle to keep our thoughts pure, but it is also written that we have weapons to fight with!

Let’s consider a typical daily situation where I would have the opportunity to take my thoughts captive:

Perhaps my supervisor at work gives me a task I hate, and negative, complaining thoughts come into my head.

These thoughts are temptations – and I have a chance to do something about them before they enter my heart
and become a part of me.

It is these types of thoughts we need to take captive by instead choosing to obey words of God
such as Philippians 2:14:

“Do all things without grumbling or complaining.”

Such a choice requires a real battle in our thought life, but the weapons of our warfare
– the Word of God and the power of His Holy Spirit
– are mighty to help us. By praying to God in the moment when we sense we are being tempted,
we can receive power to keep our thoughts pure.

Then I have taken the thought captive!

Prepare for war

We must also strengthen ourselves for this warfare beforehand by following Jesus’ example when

He was tempted by the devil to turn the stones into bread:

“But It is written, ‘Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God.”
Matthew 4:4.

The Word of God and the power of His Holy Spirit are mighty to help us take captive our thoughts.

Jesus had armed Himself by reading and meditating on the Word of God that could help Him in the trials of His life.

If we notice there are areas of our thought life that we find difficult to overcome,
we can find specific Scriptures that can help us to get victory over them,
and believe in a God who is mighty to save!

God's Word is our weapon!

For example, if we know we are easily tempted to impure thoughts about the opposite sex, we can take Jesus’ words to heart:

“But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you; for it is more profitable
for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.” Matthew 5:28-29.

Is it even possible to keep my thoughts pure?

Is it even possible to keep my thoughts pure? The first mistake is thinking that you are the creator of any thoughts.

A thought only becomes you when you consciously embrace or choose it and water or focus on it!

How can I possibly stay pure in my thought life, when many of those thoughts
are randomly coming and going in and out of my mind?

“What are you thinking about?”

– has anyone ever asked you that, wondering why you are gazing into the distance,
oblivious to your surroundings?

But I don’t always want to share what’s going on in my mind.

Often I’m glad that it’s a secret area, which no other person can see.

However, there is One who can read my thoughts, who is watching closely and from whom nothing is hidden.

God, my Creator, has full access, and is very interested in what is going on there in the secret places.

The problem is, I can’t always control what turns up in my thoughts. Feelings, pictures and words flash up without prior notice.

These thoughts can be good or bad, positive or negative, constructive or destructive.

Sometimes I can be amazed, even shocked at what turns up.

Where do these thoughts have their source?

What does God think about them; does He judge me based on these involuntary impulses?

Human nature

Every human being on earth has been born with a “flesh”.

This is the human nature that was corrupted when Adam and Eve,
the first people, committed sin. People, the most excellent of God’s perfect creation,
gave in to temptation and let sin and the curse that follows enter into their lives.

As a result, people’s thoughts turned from serving and loving God, to living for themselves.

As a human being, I have inherited that nature, and this means that those hard, unforgiving, discouraging
or filthy thoughts all come straight from my flesh.

They are the parasites, fungus,mold,viruses and bacteria that permeates all of us.

They only become destructive if you allow them to take over certain parts of the body.

If you never let them get into positions of power they can harm you, just as a narcissist,sociopath
and psychopaths can not do much damage unless you put them in positions that are meant to strengthen the whole!

They’re part of my human nature.

Uncomfortable as this insight is, most people will eventually accept it as a part of life.

“I’m only human, after all!” Many think that as long as it remains a thought, it’s not so bad
– after all, I’m not hurting anyone else.

However, Yahshua Himself makes it very clear that this is not the case:

“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’

But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:27-28.

In other words, giving in to the thought is sin, just as much as a physical action
– even though the consequences for other people are not the same.

Of course this also applies to other sins like anger, criticism, jealousy and discouragement, in fact any sin that I give in to in my thoughts!

Who is the real “me?” The real you is the thoughts you consciously embrace and manifest through action or your character!

You will know my children by their fruits

This in itself can seem discouraging – how can I possibly stay pure in my thought life,
when many of those thoughts are involuntary?

Paul gives us a clue when he writes “… in me (that is in my flesh) nothing good dwells …

For the good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice …

I find then a law, that evil is present with me, the one who wills to do good.” Romans 7:18-21.

From this it is clear that there is a difference between the “me” that is my flesh, and the “me” that is my mind,
or will to serve God.

Then I can ask: who is the real “me?”

There is a conflict between what my mind wants and what my flesh wants.

Here I have to ask myself a number of questions that should be straightforward to answer.

For example: Why should my flesh and the sin that dwells there be the winner?

Whom do I believe – God or my flesh?

Is the power of sin stronger than the power of God? What does God’s Word say?

Read more about Romans 7 – doing what I do not want to do

As a matter of fact, reading the Bible, I find that it never mentions defeat other than a fall caused by my own weakness and lack of faith.

The Bible makes it very clear that these falls should be exceptions to the rule.

The normal Christian life is that of an overcomer – in thought, in word and in deed! So how do I overcome in my thought life?

A battle and an example

In James 1:14-16 I read that it is my own desires (lusts in the flesh) that cause me to be tempted.

A temptation is the desire in my flesh making its presence known, usually as a thought or feeling.

But the desire must conceive in order to give birth to sin.

The conception occurs when my mind agrees with the flesh. The two “I’s” unify, and the thought that started out as an involuntary impulse
– a temptation – becomes sin, often followed up by words and deeds.

However, the whole Bible is a call to action: to resist the enemy, which in the New Covenant is the sin that dwells in my flesh.

Being tempted is not the same as committing sin, but for it to stay that way I have to take up a battle against the lusts that become visible.

It can seem impossible, but when Jesus returned to His Father in heaven, He promised to send us His Spirit, the Helper.

With the Holy Spirit’s help and guidance we get strength, not only to endure in temptation, but also to totally defeat the enemy.

This is the fight of faith.

As long as I am fighting, I have not sinned!

This is the life of an overcomer!

This also means that I remain pure, and there is no condemnation for those
involuntary thoughts.

How do I know this is possible? It is written that Jesus was a man like me and was tempted in all points like I am,
but that He never sinned.

Not once!

This means that it also must be possible for me.

I can go to Him to get help in time of need. (Hebrews 4:15-16.) The time of need is the time of temptation

– before I have fallen! The help is in God’s Word and the Holy Spirit, who strengthens my will to endure in the fight.

A new creation

This fight has awesome results.

As I am faithful to resist the sin that is made visible in the temptation, it actually dies. (Colossians 3:3-5.)

My corrupted human nature is gradually replaced with a new creation.

The negative, destructive thoughts and impulses lose their hold more and more, and positive,
constructive and hopeful thoughts and reactions take their place.

This is God’s work, which He performs in me while I am alive here on earth

~Mikael Howerton

 

Mikael Howerton
33m · 02 nov 2021

I will behave myself wisely in a perfect way. O when wilt thou come unto me? I will walk within my house with a perfect heart.

I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me.

A froward heart shall depart from me: I will not know a wicked person.

Whoso privily slandereth his neighbour, him will I cut off: him that hath an high look and a proud heart will not I suffer.

Mine eyes shall be upon the faithful of the land, that they may dwell with me: he that walketh in a perfect way, he shall serve me.

He that worketh deceit shall not dwell within my house: he that telleth lies shall not tarry in my sight.

I will early destroy all the wicked of the land; that I may cut off all wicked doers from the city of the Lord.

Beloved “He who overcomes shall be clothed in white garments,
and I will not blot out his name from the Book of Life;
but I will confess his name before My Father and before His angels.”

He that is unjust, let him be unjust still: and he which is filthy, let him be filthy still:
and he that is righteous, let him be righteous still:
and he that is holy, let him be holy still.

“My beloved, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.

But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. …

Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been
approved, he will receive the crown of life

Many shall be purified, and made white, and tried; but the wicked shall do wickedly:
and none of the wicked shall understand; but the wise shall understand.

The harvest is upon you, now is the time to make sure that you have removed the rafter in your own eye so you can see clearly that
you are becoming what you want to see in the world or system.

It is what you do to others, not what others do to you that defiles your soul or
character. You become the thoughts that you embrace and let live through you.

Your life begins when you realize that you are not the creator of
the thoughts that enter your mind, but become one with the thoughts you embrace and let shine through you.

You cannot be filled with both thoughts that lead to hate and thoughts that lead to love.

You cannot have two masters.

If both occupy your mind at the same time .

You will be in a state of confusion or a house divided against itself.

You must come out of Babylon. You must get of the fence and choose which thoughts shall
manifest through you. Be it the FATHERS or satans.

As long as you think all the thoughts that enter your mind are you, you will never win the
war. For you cannot overcome an enemy you can’t see or especially when that enemy
has made you believe you are the thoughts that visit your
mind or house.

Thoughts are spirits.

They are guests that you must decide which ones you want to live in your house or mind!

John 4:1

Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God,
because many false prophets have gone out into the world.

1 Corinthians 12:10

and to another the effecting of miracles, and to another prophecy, and to another the distinguishing of spirits,
to another various kinds of tongues,
and to another the interpretation of tongues.

1 John 4:2-6

By this you know the Spirit of God: every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God;
and every spirit that does not confess Jesus is not from God;
this is the spirit of the antichrist, of which you have heard that it is coming, and now it is already in the world.

You are from God, little children, and have overcome them; because greater is He who is in you
than he who is in the world.read more.

Acts 17:11

Now these were more noble-minded than those in Thessalonica, for they received the word with great eagerness,
examining the Scriptures daily
to see whether these things were so.

1 Thessalonians 5:21

But examine everything carefully; hold fast to that which is good;

2 Timothy 3:15-17

and that from childhood you have known the sacred writings which are able to give you the wisdom
that leads to salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.

All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness;
so that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work.



Know that every spirit is a thought and every thought is an Angel or a demon.



Is not the etymology of Angel simply messenger?



Is not a thought a message or a seed that leads you to bear it’s fruits?



You will know my children by their fruits. What are the fruits of the Holy Spirit? What are the fruits of Satan.



Beware of those that embrace the thoughts that lead to the fruits of those that are narcissists,

sociopaths and psychopaths for they seek positions of power.


The separation of the wheat and tares is upon you.



~Mikael Howerton